Summer 2005

  

 

In the past 11 years, Newshiluv has given you an idea of the scope of our work, including staff highlights and brief case studies.  In the present issue, we would like to share with you some profiles of families and couples who have phoned in and asked to be accepted for treatment.  We have randomly selected a week from the past month.  You will learn the size of the family, the presenting problem and who has referred them. In five of the families, both parents are working.  In the other 3, one of the parents is unemloyed.  Minor modifications have been made to insure the complete confidentiality of the families. Underlined are words that may draw the attention of the therapist upon receiving the referral. The unique vantage point that Shiluv

brings is the reciprocal influence of each family member on the symptom bearer and the potential to use the family’s strength in the treatment process.

 Intake #1:  “We have 6 children, 2 of them are teenage girls.  Our  daughters are having difficulty in high school, most of which can be attributed to their low self-image.  They’ve both been tested psychologically and therapy was recommended.”  Referral-Guidance Counselor

 Intake #2: “We have 3 small children. Our youngest is one.  After the birth of the 2nd and 3rd  child, problems arose.  We went for parenting lessons.  The children are smart, charming and also manipulative.  We work until late, so the children are with a babysitter.  Most of the childrearing is on me.  My husband is more passive and we don’t always agree about the children.”  Referral-A friend

 Intake #3: ”Our 10 year-old son is in 4th grade. He has 3 younger siblings.  He has an attention disorder and also has behavior problems.  He is taking ritalin. It helps somewhat. When he comes home and his siblings are around, things get out of control.  He’s a delightful and intelligent little boy, but on a bad day, he just doesn’t study the way he should.”  Referral-Art Therapist

 Intake #4: “We are in the process of getting divorced.  Our only child is 6 years-old.  My husband left the house 4 months ago.  The biggest problem is with my child: how to set limits. We both feel that the child is having a crisis due to the divorce.  We are both willing to come for help.”  Referral-School Social Worker

 Intake #5: “ I recently was forced to sell my business and the family was plunged into a crisis.  We have 5 children. My wife and I have been having difficulty for quite some time, but the situation now is even more difficult.  We want to come for marital counselling.”  Referral-Court Mediation

 Intake #6:  “My son is weak in his school work. His sister does very well. My wife and I think that possibly it has to do with the fact that we don’t set limits for him.  He’s terribly spoiled.  Maybe I don’t know exactly how to parent.  We want family therapy.”  Referral-Truant Officer

 Intake #7:  “We have 4 children, 1 pre-schooler,  1 in elementary school and 2 in junior high.  The one in elementary school has been acting up in class and his behavior is not acceptable.  We need help.”  Referral-School Psychologist

 Intake #8:  “My wife claims that I don’t give her enough attention.  She grew up in a home that spoiled her too much.  A month ago, I went to the bank to pay some bills.  When I got home, my wife had just returned from the doctor and complained that I hadn’t been attentive enough.  I’m not an alcoholic. I don’t beat my wife, but every little thing turns into an argument.”  Referral-A former client of Shiluv.

 

 

 

U.S. tax-deductible contributions for Shiluv can be made through: P.E.F. Israel Endowment Funds 317 Madison Ave.Suite 607,  N.Y., N.Y. 10017    or directly to:   SHILUV  6 Halevanon St.,   P.O.B. 6343,   Jerusalem 91062,  Israel.  Telephone: 02-6251390  Fax: 02-6250666